• Crmen Zajicek

“It’s MINE!”—Teaching Toddlers How to Share

When toddlers want something, their feelings seem forceful and passionate. Every cell in their body works to believe that no other option will do. While most parents fear that this possessive behavior might last a long time, the good news is that after the “It’s mine” stage, toddlers are on their way to learning about give-and-take, and sharing will get easier if taught correctly.

Here’s how parents can teach their toddlers how to share:

1. Work In Multiples

The initial step to getting your baby acquainted with the sharing idea, is encourage friend-meet ups in a play area, where nobody is required to share their toys. If the meeting is in your house, choose toys that many in number, like blocks, or double of each, such as two stuffed bears; one for each. Providing your child and their friends with the same toys will help diminish their possessive behavior as they realize everyone has the same toys. 

2. Practice What You Preach

During their first few years of development, children imitate the adults around them. From gestures to words, expressions, and even roles. This is a prime time to demonstrate the act of sharing. Let your toddler see you borrow a book from your family member and then return it later. Lend a bag to your friend and tell your toddler that they will bring it back to you.

Once they see the adults around them practice borrowing and sharing, the idea might not seem alien to them when it’s their turn. 

3. Recognize and Reward

When your toddler begins to share and takes turns, don’t step away from giving them their due praise. Positive reinforcement allows children to feel happy about their decisions, motivating them to increase instances of actions that give them rewards.

It boosts happiness; a happy child is more likely to share with others. Be verbal about why they deserve the praise, so they remember the acts and not just the recognition. 

Our preschool and daycare center at Abacus Montessori Academy provides an environment that is conducive to all the different aspects of growth, such as play-based activities, and caring interactions so your montessori toddler can master the art of sharing. If you’re based in New Britain, Perkasie, Colmar, or Warrington, PA. Take a tour of our facility today or contact us for more information.

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